The social problems arising from alcoholism are serious, caused by the pathological changes in the brain and the intoxicating effects of alcohol.   Alcohol abuse is associated with an increased risk of committing criminal offences, including child abuse , domestic violence , rape , burglary and assault .  Alcoholism is associated with loss of employment ,  which can lead to financial problems. Drinking at inappropriate times, and behavior caused by reduced judgment, can lead to legal consequences, such as criminal charges for drunk driving  or public disorder, or civil penalties for tortious behavior, and may lead to a criminal sentence. An alcoholic's behavior and mental impairment, while drunk, can profoundly affect those surrounding them and lead to isolation from family and friends. This isolation can lead to marital conflict and divorce , or contribute to domestic violence . Alcoholism can also lead to child neglect , with subsequent lasting damage to the emotional development of the alcoholic's children.  For this reason, children of alcoholic parents can develop a number of emotional problems. For example, they can become afraid of their parents, because of their unstable mood behaviors. In addition, they can develop considerable amount of shame over their inadequacy to liberate their parents from alcoholism. As a result of this failure, they develop wretched self-images, which can lead to depression. 
I can talk with our closest friends about it. But even then its very embarresing still. My husband also likes to ask me-quite often- If I want him to ‘get it’ somewhere else? If I wont do it, then what is he supposed to do? ((it is ALWAYS about him.."what about me" he is often saying)). And I just think…well -what about ME Dammit! And how am I supposed to have desire -for a drunk. NO WAY! Is there Anything you could recommend. I have brought up with him -only when sober- that he might have a problem with alcohol and he agreed that ‘sometimes he drinks too much’. but of course – its my fault.