Its my crush. He's my friend, and he knows I like him, all I do is make him uncomfortable though. I mean, theres a lot more to it than that, but I don't have time to explain weeks of events here. I'm trying to be casually friendly but I seriously can't even tell him to have a nice time at the Halloween party he didn't me to without sounding passive-aggressive. I can't compliment him or comfort him about anything without coming off as creepy or clingy. He says he still wants to be friends, and I do too, but I literally can't stop thinking about him all the time. When I sit with him and my other friends at lunch, its only a matter of time before I bring up the tension in the air, or our awkward Homecoming date, despite my promises to myself not to. How do I stop thinking about him?
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